I'm tired of apologizing for this. It's what we did. And what we did was the best we could do. We got married. Completely, body and soul, binding, under the full force of the law, man and wife.

In Africa there is no concept of being single. It just doesn't exist. Everyone is married, and often. The idea of any solitary existence is simply too strange for Africans to understand. You mean, you want to be alone?

Indoda is the word for man and the word for husband. A man is a husband and a father or he is not a man. Umfazi is the word for woman and wife. A woman is a wife and mother or she is not a woman.